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Tuesday, 19 January 2016


 You Chose 

You chose.
You chose.
You chose.

You chose to give away your love.
You chose to have a broken heart. 
You chose to give up. 
You chose to hang on.

You chose to react.
You chose to feel insecure.
You chose to feel anger.
You chose to fight back.
You chose to have hope.

You chose to be naïve. 
You chose to ignore your intuition.
You chose to ignore advice.
You chose to look the other way. 
You chose to not listen. 
You chose to be stuck in the past. 

You chose your perspective. 
You chose to blame. 
You chose to be right.
You chose your pride. 
You chose your games.
You chose your ego.
You chose your paranoia. 
You chose to compete.
You chose your enemies.
You chose your consequences.

You chose.
You chose.
You chose.
You chose.

However, you are not alone. Generations of women in your family have chosen. Women around the world have chosen. We all have chosen at one time in our lives. We stand behind you now screaming: 

Choose to let go.
Choose dignity. 
Choose to forgive yourself.
Choose to forgive others.
Choose to see your value.
Choose to show the world you’re not a victim.
Choose to make us proud.” 
― Shannon L. Alder

I came across this poem by Shannon L Alder and just loved it....we choose things that shape up our life....I chose to marry a wonderful man who gave me the best gift two beautiful children.

 Starting a new life with my children is still not a cake walk but we are trying, little baby steps at a time, they look at me for strength while I look at them because they are my strength. Our loved ones can help us but ultimately it is the three of us who need to live our own life, nobody can do it for us. I realise that we are not Victims of fate, rather we are survivors and we only know how to move on....Life is beautiful, everyday is a new beginning and we should keep it that way. My 32 year life has taught me that life is too short and precious to hold grudges or anger...let it go!

LIVE in the present, our choices shaped our life to what it is today so stop complaining and do something about it! Everyday you wake up, thank god to give you another day to make new choices, hold on to those choices whether bad or good, because bad choices have given us lessons to be learnt and good choices have given us opportunities to move forward.

I have chosen to not sit and cry, rather to move ahead and LOVE... love life, love the flowers, the colours, the wind messing my hair, the little arguments with my children over clothes and food, the bed time stories and goodnight hugs, giggles and kisses......THIS is life and this is what I choose. 

As I sit wondering what this new year has to offer me and my kids, I realised it is I who needs to show the world what I can do, because it is not the year that matters...ultimately it is what I can do to make this year different from the last one. As long as we are breathing, it is a new beginning everyday.

With a whole new life ahead of us, we have to be strong enough to face all the challenges that come our way and win! Yes WIN, Succeed!!

I have met people who tell me this is a new chapter in my life....I do not agree, this is a whole new book...a book that will be written by me and my children, we have to ensure it is written beautifully and with LOVE!


  1. That is absolutely beautiful Richita! I am so happy that this is the stand you have taken.... I am delighted at your wisdom,your zest and your commitment to life.... Alok would be proud... and on his behalf... Im proud! Im proud to know a woman like you. Will look forward to reading your "NEW BOOK" Please keep writing!

    1. thankyou Manasi! its very sweet of you to say this!

  2. Rachita... Words fall short; I cannot begin to describe how I feel reading this post!! All I'll say for now is; I derive strength from you... Keep writing; keep smiling!!!

  3. Cheering you on as you choose a beautiful new life for you and your children.