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Thursday 24 March 2022

About Coffees and Conversations


 

Linda Lambert once said, “One good conversation can shift the direction of change forever.” I couldn’t agree more, but while a conversation can shift the direction; it can’t do so on its own. A conversation is usually powered by a nice, hot, strong cup of coffee!

Yes! Coffee is life and for those who don’t know, I love coffee and coffee loves me. At times I feel it is addicted to me!

Phrases like “Let’s catch up over a cup of coffee” or “Let’s discuss it over coffee” are not just words for me, they indicate meaningful conversations.  When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation over coffee?  Rather; any kind of conversation at all?

Over the years the entire concept of talking or catching up over a cup of coffee has been replaced by just taking a break and checking your phone or social media.

So, what is special about having a conversation over coffee, you might ask. For one, coffee conversations are more relaxed unlike dinner conversations, which come with overtones of some degree of pressure. The very atmosphere that gets created with the smell of freshly ground coffee filling the air makes the perfect setting to talk, read, think or just observe people around.


Recently I had a very busy week and all I wanted was to just have some time alone and catch up on a book I had started reading a few weeks back. So, I went to a café….while sipping on my coffee and reading my book, I looked up to see the other people around. Now the crowd was mainly college kids; that was good, but they were in the café not for meeting friends…they were there for the free wifi. All the kids had their eyes fixed on their phone screens either playing some online games or watching something!

What is this generation coming to!!!??

Call me an old soul, but I love it when my friends ask to meet me over coffee because that’s when we catch up over everything going on with each other. I love the smell of coffee; it reminds me of all the good times and conversations I’ve had with people. More than people, the times I’ve had with myself!

Nowadays, people are busy texting, tweeting, Instagramming or Whatsapping pictures or stories about what they are doing; rather than experiencing those moments!

Coffee is synonymous with celebration and sadness. Whether it is love, promotion, heartbreak or something as simple as wanting some time-out, coffee is the perfect reason to zone out with your thoughts.

To be honest, I met my husband over Coffee! Why am I mentioning this? Well, this is to highlight how important it is to have some time-out. Not just my husband, I met my muse over coffee!

Have you ever wondered why children have a favourite book? Well, they like the story, but more than the story; they love the time when they snuggle up next to their parent and read it. When they read that book again, it’s like they are reliving those memories. So why can’t this new generation also live the moments rather than being in a constant race to outshine each other on a rather fake world (Social media)?

Something like this happened with me. I had just moved back with my mom and had no job. Since I was back in my hometown after what seemed a decade; I went to my old school to meet my old teachers. Since most of them had left the school, we decided to meet over a cup of coffee.

We met up and had a wonderful time remembering the good old school days and how the teachers dealt with our gobbledygook. While leaving I just mentioned that I was looking for a job but had no clue as to what I wanted to do. An old teacher of mine, who had taught us Economics in school, stayed back with me to discuss everything right from what I had done after school to what I was doing then. After he heard it all, he offered me a job at the school where he was the Principal.

It was like magic for me, how over a discussion at a cafe, I found my calling. The experience showed me how things fall in place when you communicate. Had I not spoken and asked for help, I might still be lost and trying to find my way. Though time and circumstances gave me newer and better opportunities, I still remember how that coffee meet changed my life. It played a role in helping me gain confidence and experience..and oh boy! What a lovely experience which only prepared me for what lied ahead!

There are days when I need a break from the world and my kids; that is when my good ol’ friend…Coffee comes to my rescue. I sit with my book and a cup of coffee in my room without any distractions or disturbances. There are times when my friend and I have coffee together over a video call and we have a blast!

I suppose Coffee represents the carefree moments and the memories created. It may not be with friends or family, maybe it might be a time when you are just sitting in a cozy corner of your house, reading a book and getting lost in it. A time when you are totally focused in a book and transported into another magical world. A time when you are with friends or family with no other distractions; no worries of the world; totally living the moment and enjoying it. So be present in that time, talk, laugh, cry, scream and just be alive!

Well, coffee is all that and more, magical just like the tagline of Café Coffee Day (CCD); “A lot can happen over COFFEE.”

 


Saturday 17 February 2018

Happy 8.5th Birthday!!!

"So which day do you exactly celebrate? "Is one question I'm asked every time I inform someone that I'm a leap year born! The answer I give is for 3 days!
Bring born on February 29 has the basic advantage of being able to choose when I want to celebrate my birthday whether February 28 or March 1!  People start wishing from 28th Feb and the wishing continues till March 2nd....The confusion of the dates leads to people wishing over an extended period of time!

While the people born on Leap year (or as I like to call them Leapers) are always hearing the same jokes again and again about their birthdays....a few advantages of being a Leapling that nobody else has are:


1. While everybody is turning 40....we're actually turning 10!

2. We can make our birthday into an event. When your birthday happens every four years like the Olympics, you have a better excuse to go all out. Leap-year babies can set up a spectacular party, visit friends and relatives and generally have an excellent time.
3. We age only .25 every year till Leap year

4.  People remember our birthday. Although mostly people tend to forget our birthdays during non-leap years, but February 29, is a date everyone remembers to wish...after all there are very few people born on that date!

5. Facebook can’t decide when your birthday is, just like everyone it too gets confused listing the dates!

All kinds of interesting things happen in February. Valentine’s Day. President’s Day. Black History Month. None of these involve me in the slightest, but February in a leap year has ME written all over it....it's MY month and MY birthday.


I know 2018 is NOT a leap year, but hey! We're half way there!!
                             HAPPY  BIRTHDAY TO ME!!!!!

Sunday 23 April 2017

Go get a life...LIFE!

 
Dear Life,

I was madly in love with you, but lately you’ve been acting like a Jerk!
Yes you heard it right…JERK! I asked you to be simple; I requested you and finally pleaded you to be simple….but do you listen to me? NO! You throw some or the other challenge in my face every single day….Why? I’m so irritated with you….I could punch you in the face! But then again it would mean I am punching myself in my face.

Let me remind you again it's MY life! I’m gonna live it my way, I am a strong woman and will not let anyone steal my sunshine! I don’t know what tomorrow holds for me and my children and it scares me sometimes but why should I spoil my present....this time....this moment, worrying about tomorrow? I still have to live tomorrow but this moment will never come back. Don’t make me cry or worry, rather just let me smile, laugh and live this moment with my children carefree and happy.

I just want to live while I’m alive and give my children a childhood with happy memories, I want them to be thankful for whatever they have and be satisfied. I do not want them to follow in my footsteps, rather create their own path and experiences, this is how they would be stronger and humble human beings!

Tomorrow may get harder but we have to get through it together and we will come across many people who may or may not be with us but I strongly believe that each and everybody we meet, teaches us some or the other lesson whether good or bad. So let’s thank everyone and continue our journey, like Dory says in Finding Nemo...Just keep swimming!



‘What will happen in your fate,
Will depend on how you think, mate
So forget about things like defeat
Let positive thoughts make your day complete
Decide that you won’t give up, once and for all
Even in tough times, you will stand tall
Keep pushing even if you are tired
Don’t stop until you get what you desired
                                                     Keep trying even if you are out of breath
                                                   Don’t let anything scare you, not even death.’

I don’t know who wrote these lines, but they inspire me and give me courage to keep going when I feel completely lost. So my dear life, its time you got your act together and not act funny! Please!!!

Tuesday 8 November 2016

Perfectly Imperfect Me!

"I heard we live and die by the choices we make,
and there's only so much a person can take.

so remember life goes on,
and it hurt's when someone leaves and is gone.

Always remember keep your head up,
another door opens every time one is shut."


Such beautifully written lines that I read somewhere and it's so true...we do live and die by the choices we make in life, everything that happens with us teaches us a lesson...I have learnt that I'm not Perfect....I don't wish to be Perfect!! I want to be Happy! With all my shares of ups and downs I know I survived and I know everything that has ever happened in my life has taught me to move on and to be HAPPY! 

People say we should be strong, but I think it's okay to let your guards down once in a while, it's okay to cry, it's okay to be scared about the future because first of all we are not ROBOTS, we are living beings with feelings and nobody can ever expect you to be strong always and it is during such times, such low points in our lives that we really think about the choices we have made and try improving on them, If necessary. There is no such thing as a "PERFECT LIFE", if there is a life it will have its share of sorrows and joys! In the words of Ronan Keating..."Life is a rollercoaster, we've just gotta ride it!!"

I'm not perfect and I will never be...I don't want people to like me for their idea of a perfect person, rather I want them to like me for who I am...Perfectly imperfect ME! 

Tuesday 11 October 2016

A thing or two about Tea!

Dilmah t Lounge: New Delhi, India
Address: Flat 44, First Floor, Khan Market, New Delhi
Cuisine: Cafe, Dessert Parlor
Must Try: Moroccon Ice Tea, Cheesy Mushroom waffles
Rating: 4 on 5



  
I'm not a tea lover and trust me people who know me can vouch for my love of coffee, but this trip to Delhi made me change my opinion about TEA! Yes, u read it right...I'm talking about TEA!! So after a long day of shopping and crazy stuff, my friends and I planned to go to Dilmah t Lounge for a small bite. Since we were in Khan market and had heard of this new cafe, we were very keen on trying it out.






Cheese Cake!
As we entered and chose a comfy spot the first thing we noticed was that there are phone chargers on every table, we had one too ( it was like god heard our prayers since our phone's battery was 15%) so as we were settling down we were served Rose with french vanilla iced-tea, the blissful rose fragrance with the vanilla extracts freshen you up immediately! 

Dilmah t lounge is a lounge for people who like experiencing new things without cribbing about the price they have to pay for the experience! The Menu card is pretty impressive and for a person like me who doesn't drink tea...it is a maze where I got lost! The staff was sweet enough to have patience while I chose my drink, can't say the same for my friends....they gave me the STARE! 
The Splash of colour is brilliant all over!
I ultimately chose the Darjeling tea and Cheesy mushroom waffles...big victory for me to finally make a decision, while my friends had already selected their drinks t-TK and Moroccan mint ice tea with a Baked Cheesecake with Rose and mint and Bun Maska!  The service is quick, we didn't have to wait for more than 10 minutes for our order.
The Cheesy mushroom waffle was plated neatly and the amount of cheese and mushrooms on it was sufficient for cheese lovers like me! 
The cheesecake with rose and mint was cooked perfectly and the rose and mint flavours together worked to elevate the taste of the cheesecake, the friendly ambience made the experience more fun and memorable. Next trip to Delhi means going for more fun experiences to this lounge and more stories!

Wednesday 11 May 2016

I am ME!!

Image result for thank yourselfLately I've been pretending like everything's okay and that everything around me hasn't collapsed.
But this morning I woke up and I realized I was the one who Collapsed!

Taking charge of my life has been tough, there have been moments when I have actually wanted to leave everything and run away! There have been days when it looks like a cake walk, I have had people in my life who have seen  me and stood by me in all my lows and celebrated all my highs!

To all those people a big THANKYOU! 

These few months I have learnt a valuable lesson that in the end I need to have peace with myself, I need to stop running after what was and will never be a part of my life again!  Its a tough phase but I'll get there! 

I have learnt that the people who say they will stay till the end are the ones who leave, so do not depend on anyone but yourself!

I have learnt that instead of getting to know others, I need to know myself! I need to know what makes me laugh, what makes me cry, what makes me angry, what I love! I need to be my best friend again! 

I have learnt that my own thoughts are my magic wand and my belief is the magic spell needed to turn my fears into courage. My children are my strength and the only reason to get up and get moving!

Image result for dance of lifeI have learnt that I am my own soul-mate, I am a soul and my mate, I STAY! 

I have learnt that I am a POEM, I flow in my own rhythm and rhyme, only a few can understand!

I have learnt I am a Dancer and my life is my Dance

I have learnt that its my life and I am responsible for making it happy, so no matter what is going on right now, the ending will be a happy one!

Wednesday 9 March 2016

What Would I Do For You



I would do just about anything you'd ask,
For you there's nothing I wouldn't do, there's no such task.

I would walk without my shoes to the end of the Earth,
I would give up anything I had to, to teach you self worth.

I would hold your hand every minute of every day,
But I won't because I know you need to find your own way.

I would surely bear the heartache of your first love that's real,
Even though I can't, I will naturally feel as you feel.

I would sell my soul if it would keep you happy forever,
I would give my right arm to keep us forever together.

I would run a hundred miles up-hill in the rain,
Just to guarantee that you will never feel pain.

I would laugh with you even if I was sad,
I will give you a smile even if I'm mad.

I can only accept your mistakes with a grin on my face,
I will guide you in correcting them, but at your own pace.

I will guide you through life, as this world can get quite wild,
Just don't you ever forget that you will always be my child.


Surfing the net I came across this poem by Jayne Sena, I could so relate to it.... Naman and Dimple when you do read this.....I would really want you to know that I am Sorry....I know I'm not the PERFECT MOM and I scold both of you, but know this I love you with all my life and nothing can ever lessen my love for the two of you. 

Yes I agree our life has changed drastically, but know this....the three of us are doing real good and we will swim through it all with our heads held high! I cant wait for the two of you to grow up and share with me all the things that happen in your life, just the way you do now everyday. Always remember, there is nothing I wouldn't do for the two of you but babies the world is a very tricky place, be nice to people but do not let them use your niceness to their advantage and your loss.

I am here always for any advice and any talk....I'm here as your mother, father and your friend! Your first crush, your first heartbreak, your first everything....we are in it together and we will always correct each other when either one of us are wrong! I love it when you trouble me, tease me like I'm younger to you two and when its my birthday...you two surprise me by acting so mature!! We are a weird crazy set of three and that madness in the three of us will never die, we were born to be wild and crazy which we are and will continue to be....so no matter what happens in life, keep this craziness alive, trust me when I say this it gets one out with ease through the unimaginable!!

When you grow up and start a life of your own...remember for me you will still be the little babies I held in my hands years ago, I will still correct you if you go wrong, I will still fight with you, I will still tease you but most of all....I will still Love You!!!

Always be the sweet, wild, crazy set of kids you are.....your father will always be proud of you!!