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Thursday 24 March 2022

About Coffees and Conversations


 

Linda Lambert once said, “One good conversation can shift the direction of change forever.” I couldn’t agree more, but while a conversation can shift the direction; it can’t do so on its own. A conversation is usually powered by a nice, hot, strong cup of coffee!

Yes! Coffee is life and for those who don’t know, I love coffee and coffee loves me. At times I feel it is addicted to me!

Phrases like “Let’s catch up over a cup of coffee” or “Let’s discuss it over coffee” are not just words for me, they indicate meaningful conversations.  When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation over coffee?  Rather; any kind of conversation at all?

Over the years the entire concept of talking or catching up over a cup of coffee has been replaced by just taking a break and checking your phone or social media.

So, what is special about having a conversation over coffee, you might ask. For one, coffee conversations are more relaxed unlike dinner conversations, which come with overtones of some degree of pressure. The very atmosphere that gets created with the smell of freshly ground coffee filling the air makes the perfect setting to talk, read, think or just observe people around.


Recently I had a very busy week and all I wanted was to just have some time alone and catch up on a book I had started reading a few weeks back. So, I went to a café….while sipping on my coffee and reading my book, I looked up to see the other people around. Now the crowd was mainly college kids; that was good, but they were in the café not for meeting friends…they were there for the free wifi. All the kids had their eyes fixed on their phone screens either playing some online games or watching something!

What is this generation coming to!!!??

Call me an old soul, but I love it when my friends ask to meet me over coffee because that’s when we catch up over everything going on with each other. I love the smell of coffee; it reminds me of all the good times and conversations I’ve had with people. More than people, the times I’ve had with myself!

Nowadays, people are busy texting, tweeting, Instagramming or Whatsapping pictures or stories about what they are doing; rather than experiencing those moments!

Coffee is synonymous with celebration and sadness. Whether it is love, promotion, heartbreak or something as simple as wanting some time-out, coffee is the perfect reason to zone out with your thoughts.

To be honest, I met my husband over Coffee! Why am I mentioning this? Well, this is to highlight how important it is to have some time-out. Not just my husband, I met my muse over coffee!

Have you ever wondered why children have a favourite book? Well, they like the story, but more than the story; they love the time when they snuggle up next to their parent and read it. When they read that book again, it’s like they are reliving those memories. So why can’t this new generation also live the moments rather than being in a constant race to outshine each other on a rather fake world (Social media)?

Something like this happened with me. I had just moved back with my mom and had no job. Since I was back in my hometown after what seemed a decade; I went to my old school to meet my old teachers. Since most of them had left the school, we decided to meet over a cup of coffee.

We met up and had a wonderful time remembering the good old school days and how the teachers dealt with our gobbledygook. While leaving I just mentioned that I was looking for a job but had no clue as to what I wanted to do. An old teacher of mine, who had taught us Economics in school, stayed back with me to discuss everything right from what I had done after school to what I was doing then. After he heard it all, he offered me a job at the school where he was the Principal.

It was like magic for me, how over a discussion at a cafe, I found my calling. The experience showed me how things fall in place when you communicate. Had I not spoken and asked for help, I might still be lost and trying to find my way. Though time and circumstances gave me newer and better opportunities, I still remember how that coffee meet changed my life. It played a role in helping me gain confidence and experience..and oh boy! What a lovely experience which only prepared me for what lied ahead!

There are days when I need a break from the world and my kids; that is when my good ol’ friend…Coffee comes to my rescue. I sit with my book and a cup of coffee in my room without any distractions or disturbances. There are times when my friend and I have coffee together over a video call and we have a blast!

I suppose Coffee represents the carefree moments and the memories created. It may not be with friends or family, maybe it might be a time when you are just sitting in a cozy corner of your house, reading a book and getting lost in it. A time when you are totally focused in a book and transported into another magical world. A time when you are with friends or family with no other distractions; no worries of the world; totally living the moment and enjoying it. So be present in that time, talk, laugh, cry, scream and just be alive!

Well, coffee is all that and more, magical just like the tagline of Café Coffee Day (CCD); “A lot can happen over COFFEE.”